I was a Coward

I knew it as it was happening, too. ¬†A little voice in my head was yelling, “Don’t be a wimp! ¬†You’re missing an opportunity!” ¬†But I didn’t listen.

I had been frustrated with a quality educator whose mindset was blocking her from buying into a new initiative that was good for our learners.  I knew that the right conversations and experiences could ease her out of this mindset and help her move forward.

I had been thinking about it as I walked to the staff lounge to get my lunch. I was looking forward¬†to grabbing my lunch and heading back to my desk to watch a few videos from¬†my YouTube “Watch Later” list. ¬†And then . . . there she was. ¬†In the lounge. ¬†Eating alone. ¬†It was like fate. ¬†A perfect opportunity to have a friendly trust-building conversation and ease into working on that mindset.

But that didn’t sound enjoyable. ¬†So, I walked away. ¬†I knew it was the wrong thing to do, but sitting there sounded uncomfortable. ¬†Awkward. ¬†I was a coward.

If your goal is to be a leader or a coach, a catalyst or a bus mover, you’ve got to have the uncomfortable, unenjoyable conversations. ¬†You’ve got to take the first awkward steps at building rapport and trust. ¬†Those awkward steps are uncomfortable.

The steps you take when¬†walking away? ¬†Comfortable. ¬†Not awkward at all. ¬†But they’re missed opportunities.

I missed an opportunity that day. ¬†It won’t happen again.